Through out the childhood I have heard many people say "Always be confident...never be over confident". Very few spoke about the actual difference.In their words, if you could repeat your achievements they spoke high about your morale else they blamed your over confidence.After all...we are living in a result driven world.
This argument could always come down to the perennial debate of "Ends vs Means".Let me leave it for some other day.Coming back, many times I thought about that minute difference which separated those feelings.It was always the happiness assosiated with the success which let your confidence go high and Happiness will never come to you when some one gifts it.It was to be perceived.(This post will drift away from here...i recognised it only after writing completely)
I have a peculiar friend who I always thought was an Introvert.Initially,we did nothing more than formally greeting each other.One day he looked upset (he never really smiled a lot..but that day i could make it out).I just sat with him.He suddenly started speaking in a pathetic tone "This life is getting miserable.Not because I lacked success.But i am unable to enjoy it.When ever i was extremely satisfied with a result, things turned away.Just when I feel I am happy, petty issues disturb me.No two consecutive things are related.Impressive academic performance, winning the Essay writing competition,good pat from a teacher brings a grin on my face. (Yeah..he was a nerd) But the annoying comments from batch mates,frequent quarrels in home is hitting me hard.Above all...the fact of handful friends is eating me.Never did I do harm to any one.Just that I am reserved and shy.No one really cares about the inner me.The real person inside is being deserted.I have just learned to live along with it.But today something is hurting me" Suddenly I was taken back.I never saw him speak so much.I consoled him and tried to induce strength.He left with a smile (Company of a friend on a 'low' day is really good...:) ).I thought about him.His problems were a bit trivial (at least I thought so). But he was in terrible pain.I thought,may be he needed to prioritize his needs.I still spent time trying to figure out what went wrong with him but could not come out with a response.
We became good friends.But went in different ways for our further studies.Long after,I met him.This time, he was changed.He had a shining smile on his face.He gave me a high-five. His words were full of happiness.After talking for enough time, I simply asked him about his change.He grinned. (May be he expected this from me).He quoted a famous dialouge "Yeh dil jo he...bada darpok he yaar...usey Bewakoof bane ke rakho...Life me kithni bi badi problem ho...usey bolo...Koi bath nai chachu...ALL IZZ WELL" I observed him with a smile.He too flashed a smile of spark.Then I asked "Did that dialouge change u?". He quickly responded "Every knows it.But Aamir khan explained it convincingly".We burst out into laughter.That encounter with him was short and crisp.But its essence was made.
Later that night, I was tossing in my bed.He said the factor of his change very smartly.I knew, his emotional character always lies deep inside him.His perceived feelings haunted him for years.But he has managed to get along with it.Now,he has justified his heart.His life was heading in a better direction.With high intellectual quotient and bright attitude...there was no stopping him.A shy,reserved,sorrowful person now has a smile to die for.He is now the cool dude with extreme happiness.I went to sleep thinking "There is light at the end of every tunnel". :)
This argument could always come down to the perennial debate of "Ends vs Means".Let me leave it for some other day.Coming back, many times I thought about that minute difference which separated those feelings.It was always the happiness assosiated with the success which let your confidence go high and Happiness will never come to you when some one gifts it.It was to be perceived.(This post will drift away from here...i recognised it only after writing completely)
I have a peculiar friend who I always thought was an Introvert.Initially,we did nothing more than formally greeting each other.One day he looked upset (he never really smiled a lot..but that day i could make it out).I just sat with him.He suddenly started speaking in a pathetic tone "This life is getting miserable.Not because I lacked success.But i am unable to enjoy it.When ever i was extremely satisfied with a result, things turned away.Just when I feel I am happy, petty issues disturb me.No two consecutive things are related.Impressive academic performance, winning the Essay writing competition,good pat from a teacher brings a grin on my face. (Yeah..he was a nerd) But the annoying comments from batch mates,frequent quarrels in home is hitting me hard.Above all...the fact of handful friends is eating me.Never did I do harm to any one.Just that I am reserved and shy.No one really cares about the inner me.The real person inside is being deserted.I have just learned to live along with it.But today something is hurting me" Suddenly I was taken back.I never saw him speak so much.I consoled him and tried to induce strength.He left with a smile (Company of a friend on a 'low' day is really good...:) ).I thought about him.His problems were a bit trivial (at least I thought so). But he was in terrible pain.I thought,may be he needed to prioritize his needs.I still spent time trying to figure out what went wrong with him but could not come out with a response.
We became good friends.But went in different ways for our further studies.Long after,I met him.This time, he was changed.He had a shining smile on his face.He gave me a high-five. His words were full of happiness.After talking for enough time, I simply asked him about his change.He grinned. (May be he expected this from me).He quoted a famous dialouge "Yeh dil jo he...bada darpok he yaar...usey Bewakoof bane ke rakho...Life me kithni bi badi problem ho...usey bolo...Koi bath nai chachu...ALL IZZ WELL" I observed him with a smile.He too flashed a smile of spark.Then I asked "Did that dialouge change u?". He quickly responded "Every knows it.But Aamir khan explained it convincingly".We burst out into laughter.That encounter with him was short and crisp.But its essence was made.
Later that night, I was tossing in my bed.He said the factor of his change very smartly.I knew, his emotional character always lies deep inside him.His perceived feelings haunted him for years.But he has managed to get along with it.Now,he has justified his heart.His life was heading in a better direction.With high intellectual quotient and bright attitude...there was no stopping him.A shy,reserved,sorrowful person now has a smile to die for.He is now the cool dude with extreme happiness.I went to sleep thinking "There is light at the end of every tunnel". :)
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